Number of Men Suicide , accident, murder , job loss, work place harassment increasing in India at rocket speed, due to multiple Unfair laws made by Indian Government . Today SIF became a Ray of hope for many abused/distressed men of India. Join Hands to Stop Abuse of Men as Men are Human too.
Look out Circular is more popular in short form as LOC, The popularity of it comes from Indian Women filing false and frivolous 498a cases on NRI Husbands to extort money and making them fear with LOC. Hence, it is issued on NRI Men or any person who potentially will be travelling abroad by Police officials or Magistrate when wife makes false complaint on just mere allegations on husband or his entire family using Draconian laws or most popularly misused law by women in India – 498A or if there is criminal case pending.
LOC document has standard proforma which gives identification parameters of criminals (i.e. Photo, passport no, name, father name, address, nationality, etc). More importantly it contains instructions what immigration authorities should do when accused has been stopped/ detained at airport(i.e. Typically call person who has requested for it(DCP/SP) or make the arrest).
LOC is only valid only for 1 year from the date of the issue, request has to be made by the Originator to extend the LOC by one more year before the expiry of existing LOC. Otherwise, LOC should be cancelled.
What is LOC
LOC is document issued by the authorities to trace the absconding person who is wanted by law enforcement authorities. Once issued, flag is raised at all immigration entry and exit borders of India including airports and sea ports. Issuing LOC is become like ordering Pizza for Police Officials.
Why LOC is issued
- Not to allow criminals to leave the country
- Not to allow criminals to enter the country with being aware
- To Trace the absconding criminals
- To Harass NRI’s by Police officials (non – technically)
Who can issue LOC
LOC can be initiated in 2 different ways
- Police Officials – Not below the RANK of Deputy Commissioner of Police or equivalent rank in other Departments / Ministries / Law Courts, Generally it will be SP of the district would issue LOC (Called Originator)
- Court – Magistrate where the Criminal case Trial is pending before his court.
How can you find out if there was LOC or not?
LOC is highly confidential document and it is not generally reveled under normal circumstances. They are multiple avenues which one can pursue by different means(ex: RTI). Most of the NRI Men find out LOC has been issued on their name only when they get detained at airport while entering or while flying out. Below are listed possible places where information can be found.
- Police Station where the complaint is lodged will have information about whether LOC has been issued on accused or not.
- District DSP/SP Office
- CB/CID Office
- Immigration Authorities
- FRRO Office (In case of NRI)
- MHA – Who are responsible to issuing LOC upon request from Police Officials or Magistrate.
How to Remove
After finding out LOC is in place on the accused, it becomes responsibility of the accused to get it removed irrespective whether the case for which is was issued in first place is closed or at Trial stage.
They are 2 different methods by which LOC can be cancelled or removed. For each method one will have to spend time, money, energy and resources. Choose the appropriate and applicable one according to your situation. For NRI’s Men, method 2 is most applicable one.
- Police – You will have finish the investigation and then request police officials to remove the LOC, which starts at the Level of IO. If its still not working then make representations to the originator who would be SP or DSP of that district. One has to be persistent and follow up regularly to get updates whether any action has been taken or not. If not, make further representations to make requests.
- Court – Accused can approach court to get it removed as well. They are different levels of court you can approach not necessarily in below order
- Lower Court/ Trial Court – Filing the petition to remove LOC
- Session Court – Filing the petition to remove LOC
- High Court – Filing the petition under Cr.P.C 482 to remove LOC(Common practice by most NRI’s)
- Supreme Court – Filing the petition to remove LOC (I Sincerely hope no one has to take this step)
How to Confirm if it’s removed
Here is the tricky bit, if court removes/ cancels LOC, still in most the cases accused has follow up with police to get LOC removed from the Immigration Database. If not, then accused will have to spend time at airport showing the cancellation orders to immigration authorities and in spite of that, they still have to take permission from the Originator.
To Confirm its been removed or not, one has to follow same procedure they followed to find out whether LOC has been issued or not as mentioned above.
When can you travel with LOC issued.
Following are the scenarios when accused on whom LOC is issued can travel abroad:
- When Accused has taken explicit permissions from the court to travel abroad (Court generally puts restrictions to notify IO after travel itinerary and make reasonable to huge security deposit)
- When Accused gets court orders from the court stating LOC has been removed.
- When Police Officials gives NOC(No Objection Certificate) to travel (This does not happen at all).
For all the above scenarios make sure you have at least one certified copy of all orders and couple of Xerox copies when travelling.
What are the issues?
Below are very few issues one will have when LOC is issued, I Have personally experienced all listed below (Off course I have been back stabbed by my lawyer and my lack my legal knowledge).
- JOB Loss
- Career Loss/ derailment
- Arrested at Airport
- Spending time in Lockup or Jail or Judicial Custody
- Public Humiliation /Embarrassment
- Many more…
For Foreign Nationals
Stay in India – If you have OCI/POI Card they might be taken, one will not be allowed to move out of the country until LOC is removed or permission from the court to go out the country
On Visit Visa – Unfortunately if Visit Visa expires, it wont be extended until LOC has been removed or one gets permission from the court to extend it(One more case). So one will become Illegal person in the country and ironically you cannot be even be detained.
Work in India – If getting Visit Visa itself if up hill task then to get employment visa, you can imagine what all hassles one has to go through. Most the Indian companies still would not like to recruit personal with Criminal background or Case pending (Yes you are accused Criminal, even it was broken marriage with stupid 498a section).
My Story in Short: I am UK National, My wife filled 498a case after more than 6 years she left my house, I came to India and took regular bail by surrendering in the court. My bail did not have any travel restrictions nor was asked to surrender my passport. So ,on 12 September 2014 12:05 am I was returning to UK to report back at work, I was detained at Mumbai Airport by immigration authorities stating LOC is in place on my name. I requested/ pleaded/ begged authorities showing them bail papers which do not have any travel restrictions to let me travel as this will not only make me lose my JOB by destroy my career. Little did I know, I was talking to stone wall. Not only they did not listen instead were very aggressive and used abusive language towards me to show court papers to travel. As I was in Shock state, I just couldn’t respond in any commanding way except repeating my story again and again. As if this was not worse, I called my lawyer to speak to them, he just hung up one me just saying “Who are you?” and did not return my 50 calls afterwards. Reason for his reaction, as I put my foot down not to pay him anymore (he has been paid very handsomely already) until case moves to next stage then I realised its not only women who extort money in India, it is lawyers too. Now knowing there is no one to rescue me, Harassment by authorities has gone to next level.
I was detained, spent time in lookup, court gave judicial custody until PS where the 498a case has filed(700 KM away) officials comes and picks me up. I spent 3 days in the lockup, one day on road to reach the PS, where I was presented to Magistrate, who calmly said, “he is not required here and I will see him in 2 months”. Still not recovered fom the shock of losing the job(off course my office fired me), detained, time in lockup I requested police officials to remove LOC.
IO did say he will remove the LOC and did send the LOC removal request to SP after good 1.5 months. Then I kept on going to SP Office with requisition letters for removal, every time I was promised to be looked into and being spoken positive about removal. I waited for few more months. Just when it was time to extend LOC, I was told LOC will not be removed by SP and same was extended for one more year. Again, little did I realize that SP was just playing game with me to waste my time, and I was waiting in good faith. After this episode, I lost faith in entire police missionary.
I approached HC by filing LOC Removal petition and the case was disposed in 4 weeks to file petition in trial court for removal(one more delay). I approached lower court and finally his Hon ‘ble Magistrate cancelled my LOC in May 2015.
Lesson Learnt: Wait for 1 month with Police officials to remove LOC. If they don’t, then take different approach(If you are not in immediate need to fly). However, for most NRI men or Foreign Nationals who want to return to their motherland best method will be to approach the court and file LOC removal petition stating the reason why it is imminent for them to return immediately.
Well I thought that’s end of the game, lessons have always been learnt hard way in my life and hence this one as well. I was allowed to travel to UK with LOC cancellation papers after been made to wait for 2 hours to get confirmation from SP to travel. However, LOC was still showing up on the immigration systems. So, I start again making requests to SP office to remove LOC. After 3 requests, LOC removal request was sent to CB CID which in turn was sent to Immigration Board for removal from their systems. Entire process took 3.5 months. Not that I was not allowed to travel, that’s how Indian system works. To Issue LOC it takes less than 1 day. However, in my case it took less than 1 week.
The Funniest part was My Legally wedded wife filed Cr.P.C 125 and HMA 9(popularly known as RCR) as soon I was detained at airport.
Originally published at https://498ablog.wordpress.com/look-out-circular-loc/
A son, irrespective of his marital status, has no legal right to live in the self-acquired house of his parents and can reside there only at their “mercy”, Delhi HC said. Only because parents have allowed the son to live there doesn’t mean they have to bear his “burden” throughout life, court said.
A son has no legal right to live in the self-acquired house of his parents, the Delhi high court has said
He can only reside there only at their “mercy”
Only because parents have allowed the son to live in their house does not mean they have to bear his “burden” throughout life, the court added.
NEW DELHI: A son, irrespective of his marital status, has no legal right to live in the self-acquired house of his parents and can reside there only at their “mercy”, the Delhi high court has said.
A son, irrespective of his marital status, has no legal right to live in the self-acquired house of his parents and can reside there only at their “mercy”, Delhi HC said. Only because parents have allowed the son to live there doesn’t mean they have to bear his “burden” throughout life, court said.
The court also said that only because parents have allowed the son to live in their house as long as their relations are cordial does not mean they have to bear his “burden” throughout his life.
“Where the house is self-acquired by the parents, son whether married or unmarried, has no legal right to live in that house and he can live in that house only at the mercy of his parents up to the time the parents allow,” Justice Pratibha Rani said in an order.
“Merely because the parents have allowed him to live in the house so long as his relations with the parents were cordial does not mean that the parents have to bear his burden throughout his life,” the court said.
It said this while dismissing an appeal by a man and his wife challenging the order of a trial court which had passed a decree in favour of his parents, who had filed a suit seeking a direction to their son and daughter-in-law to vacate the floors in their possession.
The parents, both senior citizens, had told the lower court that both their sons and daughters-in-law, who were living with them, have made their “life hell” after which they had given complaints to the police and also issued public notices in 2007 and 2012 debarring them from their self-acquired property.
Both the sons and daughters-in-law had contested the suit before the trial court while denying the allegations. They had also claimed that they were the co-owners of the property as they had contributed towards its purchase and construction.
However, the trial court had passed the decree in favour of the parents after which one of the sons, along with his wife, had moved the high court.
In the order, Justice Rani noted that the son and his wife were unable to prove that they were the co-owners of the property, while his parents have established their contention on the basis of documentary evidence.
Source: Times of India
My daughter in law tried to strangle me, hit me with stones on my head, said the woman who was beaten up by daughter in law (ANI)
A woman in Bijnor, Uttar Pradesh has been arrested on charges of attempt to murder after a shocking video, uploaded by a social activist went viral on Monday, which showed her brutally beating up and torturing her elderly mother-in-law.
The video was uploaded by social activist Kundan Srivastava on his Facebook page and was supported by an appeal to Chief Minister Akhilesh Yadav to take action against the woman named Sangeeta Jain.
The video, captured on January 5, shows Sangeeta brutally assaulting 70-year-old Rajrani Jain, with a brick and trying to strangle her with a rope.
The footage, just over a minute long, shows Sangeeta first beating her sick and helpless 70-year-old mother-in-law with bare hands and then with a brick on her head, repeatedly. She then used a cloth to make a noose around her neck in an attempt to kill her.
She even tries to pull the old woman down from her bed.
The police,have registered a case under section 307 of the Indian Penal Code against Sangeeta, Subhash Singh Baghel,SP told ANI.
Sangeeta’s husband Sandip Kumar Jain installed a CTV camera in their home to catch her red-handed as she had been assaulting his parents for quite some time.
”This has been happening for quite some time now. She used to assault and abuse my parents very often. I complained about her but no one used to listen to me. Then after waiting for two years, I installed a CCTV camera expecting that she will fix her ways, but she didn’t. That day she crossed all the limits. I installed the camera to unmask her since the law is on the woman’s side when these types of cases are concerned,” said Sandip.
Recalling the incident, the victim said that her daughter-in-law attacked her mercilessly. “My daughter in law attacked me, she slapped me again and again. She hit with me a hard stone,” she is quoted as saying by ANI.
Sangeeta and her husband Sandeep Jain have been married for 7 years and a divorce case is going on, CNN IBN reported. Sangeeta also allegedly filed a false report against her husband.
Disturbing CCTV Footage
Leads to Arrest
Another horrifying incident :
CCTV captures how a woman beats her mother in law mercilessly:
About International Men’s Day
International Men’s Day (IMD) is an annual international event celebrated on November 19. Inaugurated in 1999 in Trinidad and Tobago, the day and its events find support from a variety of individuals and groups in Australia, the Caribbean, North America, Asia, Europe, Africa, and the United Nations.
Speaking on behalf of UNESCO, Director of Women and Culture of Peace Ingeborg Breines said of IMD, “This is an excellent idea and would give some gender balance.” She added that UNESCO was looking forward to cooperating with IMD organizers.
The objectives of celebrating an International Men’s Day include focusing on men’s and boy’s health, improving gender relations, promoting gender equality, and highlighting positive male role models. It is an occasion to highlight discrimination against men and boys and to celebrate their achievements and contributions, in particular for their contributions to community, family, marriage, and child care.
International Men’s Day is celebrated in over 50 countries, including Trinidad and Tobago, Jamaica, Australia, India, China, United States, Singapore, Malta, United Kingdom, South Africa, Moldova, Hungary, Ireland, Ghana, Canada, Denmark, Austria, France, Pakistan, Antigua and Barbuda, St. Kitts and Nevis, Grenada and Italy, on November 19, and global support for the celebration is broad.
According to its creators, International Men’s Day is a time to highlight discrimination against men and boys in areas of health, family law, education, media or other areas and to project their positive contributions and achievements. During past years the method of commemorating International Men’s Day included public seminars, classroom activities at schools, radio and television programs, peaceful displays and marches, debates, panel discussions, and art displays.The manner of observing this annual day is optional, and any appropriate forums can be used.
Early pioneers of IMD reminded that the day is not intended to compete against International Women’s Day, but is for the purpose of highlighting men’s experiences. Each year a secondary theme is suggested, such as peace in 2002, men’s health in 2003, healing and forgiveness in 2007, or positive male role models in 2009, although it is not compulsory to adopt these themes and participants are welcome to come up with their own to suit their needs and local concerns. In 2009 the following broad objectives were ratified as a basis for all International Men’s Day observations:
- To promote positive male role models not just movie stars and sports men but everyday, working class men who are living decent, honest lives.
- To celebrate men’s positive contributions to society, community, family, marriage, child care, and to the environment.
- To focus on men’s health and wellbeing social, emotional, physical and spiritual.
- To highlight discrimination against men in areas of social services, social attitudes and expectations, and law.
- To improve gender relations and promote gender equality.
- To create a safer, better world where people can be safe and grow to reach their full potential
According to Mens Activism News Network International Men’s Day also interfaces with ‘Movember‘ – a worldwide moustache growing charity event held during November each year that raises funds and awareness for men’s health, one of the key themes promoted on IMD.It also interfaces with Universal Children’s Day on Nov 20 and forms a 48 hour celebration firstly of men, then children respectively, with a recognition of the bonds between them.
Posted at: Aug 19 2015 12:33AM
Sunit Dhawan Tribune News Service Rohtak, August 18
What the chargesheet says
- A chargesheet indicates none of the 50-odd witnesses in the case supported the sisters’ version
- The girl who had shot the video of the incident had refuted the sisters’ contention of eve-teasing
- The polygraph tests of the complainants and the accused indicated the sisters were concealing some information while the accused came out clean in the test
The police have maintained that the allegations of eve-teasing/molestation levelled by Sonepat sisters Pooja and Aarti against three boys of Aasan village in the district seemed to be untrue after investigations.
A chargesheet submitted before a local court in this regard indicates that none of the 50-odd witnesses in the case had supported the sisters’ version. Even the girl who had shot the video of the incident had refuted the sisters’ contention of eve-teasing.
Moreover, the polygraph tests of the complainants as well as the accused had also indicated the sisters were concealing some information while the accused boys had come out clean in the test.
However, the Sonepat sisters’ lawyer has expressed reservation over the turn of events. He said it was not clear whether the chargesheet had been submitted by the Rohtak police SIT or the crime branch of the state police. “In any case, we demand a fresh probe into the matter by the CBI or any other Central investigating agency as we doubt a fair inquiry by the state police,” said their lawyer Attar Singh Pawar.
The sisters had thrashed three boys on board a moving bus in November, 2014, alleging that they had molested them. They also lodged a police complaint following which the boys were arrested.
The boys, however, maintained that they had not molested the girls and the real issue was getting a seat vacated for an elderly woman, which triggered an altercation. An SIT was constituted to investigate the matter.
A number of eyewitnesses came forward with their statements, and all of them supported the boys’ version.
Accusing the Rohtak police of tardy investigation, the sisters and their father had requested the Rohtak range IGP to get their case transferred elsewhere. On their request, the case had been transferred to the State Crime Branch.
Payal Gwalani | Aug 17, 2015, 03.33 PM IST
Nagpur: The laws and policies in the country are inclined towards women in a way that they are based on the assumption that women can never be perpetrators of a crime. While this has been a bone of contention for men’s rights activists, they now believe it is time that men’s social, emotional and physical wellbeing is given due importance while designing policies.
During their 7th annual national conference on Saturday, over 180 delegates representing 50 NGOs under the banner of Save Indian Family (SIF) discussed these issues. They met to brainstorm on the need for gender neutral laws in the country. A few resolutions were passed during the meet, which will be turned into a memorandum of demands and handed over to several authorities including PM Narendra Modi.
“Over the last ten years that we have been running a helpline for men, there have been a lot of distressed and abused men who have had some common complaints. Often, these are men with a familial strife going on. If these problems end up in the court, it is assumed by most legal entities that women don’t lie or cheat. Such biased opinion of lawmakers only makes it more difficult for men facing abuse to seek legal resort,” said Swarup Sarkar, founder of SIF’s Delhi chapter.
For any kind of domestic abuse, be it verbal, emotional, sexual or economical, there is no protection of men in present Domestic Violence Act, said president of Mumbai-based Vastav Foundation Amit Deshpande. “The law here assumes that women can only be victims of abuse while only men can be the perpetrators. Even the questionnaires given to men and women under the National Family Health Survey (NFHS) reflect this thought. It should be no surprise that dowry law, domestic violence law and rape laws are the most abused laws in the country,” he said.
The number of false cases under these laws is so high that the men’s rights activists call it ‘legal terrorism’. They are also concerned that marital rape laws will also be misused if not made gender neutral.
“Even when it comes to legal separation of a couple with children, a mother is always looked as a better caregiver than a father. The courts overlook the fact that for its overall development, a child needs both his parents. Though men pay more than 82% of income tax, the government has not bothered to address our problems,” said Bangalore-based activist Kumar Jahgirdar, national president of NGO Child Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting (CRISP).
SOME PROBLEMS FACED BY MEN
- High suicide rate: Male to female suicide ratio is 2.1: 1. Every 5.84 minutes, a man commits suicide in India with family disputes being the single largest reason.
- Abuse against boys not given prominence: When violence against women and girls are always on everyone’s agenda, abuse of boys is never talked about or discussed despite a recent Women and Child Development ministry survey report showing that among those sexually abused 53% are boys
- Misuse of harassment laws: Laws meant to protect women from dowry harassment, domestic violence and sexual harassment at workplace are among the most misused laws in the country with a huge number of cases being false allegations.
- Mothers given preference over fathers for child custody: Even working women expect the father to take care of all the child’s expenses and give her alimony. Yet, fathers get a few hours in a week with the child in the name of visitation rights.
- No one to look into men’s issues: Whether it is their health problems or social issues, there is no study, records or statistics
- Set up National Commission for Men in line with National Commission for Women
- Pass a bill in the Parliament making shared parenting mandatory as per the charter of United Nation Convention of Child Rights.
- Make Domestic Violence Act gender neutral and set up men help lines across the country to address the problem faced by husbands and to prevent high suicide rates among married men.
- Make provision to study issues pertaining to men’s health by experts.
- Punish people who misuse Dowry Act, Domestic Violence Act, rape laws strictly
- Take steps for rehabilitation of survivors of false cases who have been acquitted after trial
- De-link Women and Child Development ministry and set up a separate ministry for child welfare
National Conference on Advocacy of Gender Neutral Laws
This Independence Day, a group of 50 NGOs, under the banner of Save Indian Family (SIF) and 180+ activists from across the nation will assemble in Mumbai to brainstorm advocacy of gender neutral laws. The seventh national confluence has been earmarked to evolve with strategy of protecting vulnerable men from laws facing undue harassment due to heavily loaded legal provisions against men. It’s an ironyl that “India”, presumed to be a patriarchal society, has marginalized men like never before. Apart from gender neutral laws the group will also discuss the concerning issue of suicide of men & deteriorating health status and lack of medical facilities for men & boys.
Suicides is one avenue which exhibits the social trauma and mental status of a men NCRB 2014 illustrates the vulnerable situation men are facing in present scenario. Every 5.9 min a man is committing suicide in India with family disputes as the single largest reason of male suicide. Referring to the latest statistics from NCRB, we wish to highlight following:
As against last year’s ratio of 2.17 Husband Suicide per Wife Suicide in India, in 2014, the ratio has increased to 2.21 Husband Suicide per Wife Suicide. Similarly, Male Suicide to Female Suicide ratio has increased from 2.05 last year to 2.10 in 2014. This means that with the Anti-Men environment in India, more Men and Husbands are forced to commit suicide. India, indeed, is becoming unsafe for men.
In India, 1 male commits suicide every 5.9 minutes in 2014. While Women suicide is 1 in every 12.36 minutes. Unfortunately, still Government is not showing any intent to bring equality for Men in Law. In 2014, India witnessed Male Suicide (89129), Husband Suicide (59744), Female Suicide (42521) while least was Wife Suicide (27064).
Another fact is that suicide of women in age-group 30-60 years is 39% of total women suicide while the same for men is 55%. This clearly shows that the age group of 30-60 years is 16% more vulnerable for men as compared to women. It is pertinent to mention here that this is the age group which is contributing maximum to GDP of India and hence government’s loss of focus to men of this age groups specifically will have a direct effect on the GDP of the country.
Another clear indicator of how growing to be an Adult male in India is crime is showing in the NCRB 2014 data. Till the age of 18 years, for every 100 suicides, boys and girls are almost in equal proportions. The moment a boy becomes a man, i.e. of every 100 suicides of adults in India, 2/3rd of the suicides are by Male. This is clearly arriving to the fact that since POCSO is Gender Neutral (and other laws are too), the suicide ratio is almost same irrespective of Gender. The moment laws become biased, Male suicide sky-rockets by another 25%-28%.
It is ironical that Ministry of Women and Child Development, in their own report in 2007 had said that of every 100 children sexually abused, 53 are boys but still the Rape laws of India or other laws do not cover men as victims because of which we see a huge increase of Suicide of Male gender the moment they become adult. The suicides are because of either false rape case threats or because of them being victims of Rape by women and no law to protect them.
Cannot be directly established but indeed in 2013-2014, Men in India did see some relief with launch of SIF One (National helpline for Men – 888-2-498-498 ) and also the directions from Hon’ble Supreme Court in ‘Arnesh Kumar vs State of Bihar’ gave a huge hope to Husbands / Married men and that’s where we are pleased to see their suicide rate coming down.
According to the Accidental deaths (by unnatural causes) data of NCRB 2014, 80% of victims are Men but still the Government is not waking up to make workplace, society, public areas, homes safer for men.
More than 85% of Traffic Deaths and over 81% of Traffic injuries victims are Men and still the Government is ignoring men completely in their policies and their budgets.
Single largest reason as revealed by NCRB for suicides was found to be family disputes (21.7%).
The Confluence of activists will discuss the expansion of SIF-ONE helpline further. The self-sponsored, non-funded helpline is a Single number National helpline service run by volunteers 24X7 to counsel and guide men in distress. In the absence of any support structure & government aid or distress centres for men, several women helpline numbers too have been seen flooded with complaints from men. The grim scenario of men facing atrocities is a black spot as India when it is assumed to be a male dominated society where men even lack basic amenities as gender neutral laws and distress centres. The distress of Males in India is further strengthened by the fact that SIF One, got 34% more calls as compared to Government Women helpline in last 1 year.
Men are completely on an alien land specially if the complainant is a woman in case of disputes. 65 crore male population do not have any law to protect themselves, in case they face cruelty or any form of abuse at the hands of any female. WCD itself reported that male child Sexual abuse is 6% more than female child yet the laws remain biased to protect girl child alone. Amendment in various laws to protect women fail to protect men under similar scenario of molestation & sexual abuse. The forum will formalize a strategic group to create legal sensitization and seek constitutional amendments and urge lawmaking authorities to enroll men in the frame work of laws to protect interest of men.
Where a plethora of initiatives have been taken up by the government for the women & Child welfare ministry, an absence of a dedicated “Men Welfare ministry” explains gender Apartheid and men facing poor health condition and medical aid. Out of Illness 16078 men & 7663 women committed suicide. AIDS forced 184 men & 48 women to suicide. Men are more prone to various forms of cancer as 407 men & only 175 women committed suicide because of cancer. Other prolonged illness forced 10425 men & 4992 women to end their lives. Paralysis cases male suicide was 3 times that of women. 407 men & 175 men committed suicide because of paralysis. Where men are prone to illness & health hazards Indian men do not receive any respite in the Indian society. The Forum in this national confluence will evolve with a strategy to create groups to sensitize parliamentarians to evolve with a timeline & concrete plan to address male specific heath issues.
Men overburdened with the social expectation of providing & protecting their families and society face larger social trauma. Bankruptcy took away 2098 men vis a vis 210 women i.e. almost 10 times a man is under the pressure to be the provider and Protector. It is widely known that bankruptcy related suicides are by men who are sincere citizens, not being able to live upto the expectations of either the lender or the one who he is forced to provide. Reasons of Poverty claimed lives of 1419 men & 280 women, unemployment claimed the lives of 1965 & 242 women. Thus strengthening the fact that men are more vulnerable to social stigma and unable to meet the expectation of family & society succumbed to death.
National Conference is aimed to evolve a consensus from nationwide volunteers to evolve with strategic initiatives to empathize with the deteriorating situation of men in legal front, heath care & Social Status. To address men in distress through various channels, campaign, create groups and establish the respect for men. To avoid the inevitable & stand by all Men to address their pain n support them for better living. To restore the dignity of men & give them equality in true sense.
For more details contact:
Partha Tr – +91 888 555 0294 ( Hyderabad )
Call SIF One + 91 8882 498 498 (for other states)
Jul 24 2015 : The Times of India (Hyderabad)
BY MY WIFE
My bed-ridden father assaulted my fatherinlaw, I clutched her neck and then banged her head against the wall, and we constantly tortured my wife demanding a dowry of `1,000,000….,” thus begins the video, The Chair: I wish I never got married. A first person account of a harassed husband who recounts the suffering he went through in a bad marriage, this video which generated close to 40,000 views, brings to fore the plight of a rising number of men who are tortured and harassed by their wives, who slap Section 498a on them at the slightest pretext. Unfortunately for these men, the law is not on their side. Forget proving their innocence, even getting someone to hear their side of the story proves to be an impossible task. Ever since the video was uploaded, more and more harassed husbands are speaking up, even in Hyderabad. The fight for men’s rights is as big a reality as its feminist counterpart. Even though several organisations have come up in the recent past to actively campaign for gender-neutral laws, finding a fair playing ground seems an uphill task for most harassed husbands.
I WAS MANHANDLED AND KICKED
I got married in 2010. She started off constantly trying to prove that she is superior and picked on everything I did. She conceived three months into the marriage, and left my house. I wanted her to live with me and it still pains me that I missed the birth of my son. She named our child herself and told me about it on the phone. I was kicked and manhandled by my in-laws. All of this constitutes harassment, but as a man, I found little help when I approached the police. They assumed that I was at fault even though there was no evidence against me. I finally got divorced in 2014, but not without undergoing my share of trauma. —Dr Sravan
I WAS SLAPPED 500 TIMES
We got married in 2013 and moved to Australia. My wife was a control freak. Even if I was late by 30 minutes, she would ask, ‘Who did you sleep with?’ The physical abuse started when one day I woke up in the middle of the night, to her hysterically beating me. That continued for months. I would have been slapped 500 times in six months. She would also hit herself. I did not want to involve the police in Australia and I was too embarrassed to even speak about it to my family. When we returned to India in 2014, I consulted a psychiatrist, who confirmed that my wife was mentally unstable. But it did not go down well with my fatherinlaw, who refused to have her treated. The differences led to them even sending goons to my office to force me to stop taking her to the doctor. When I went to the police, they told me it’s a family matter and I have to solve it internally. I am sure that would not have been the response if a woman walked into the police station. My trauma is far from over — it has now escalated to a dowry harassment case against me,my mother, my aunt, my brother, and a domestic violence case against me, my mother and my brother. —Kumar* (name changed)
I AM STUCK IN INDIA
I was based in New Zealand; I had told my wife clearly that I did not want to move back to India. She got a visa nine months after marriage and moved there. Gradually, her behaviour changed. At first, it did not make much sense — she would talk to my friends about me, she brought up my ex-girlfriends all the time. Then things got out of hand and I suggested that she go to India and cool off. Once she was here, she started telling horrible lies about me to the elders in our community. Everyone thought I was the culprit, when I was actually the victim. When I was told to come for a meeting with the elders, I refused ’cos I felt that issues between man and wife should be dealt by the couple. But the next thing I know, a 498a case was filed. My mother, brother and me were taken into judicial custody. The police asked us to submit all our passports and then released us. Now, I am still stuck in India without a job. And although I have proofs of my innocence — including email exchanges — it will never be considered. The fact is that I as a man in India, I have zero rights. — Sailesh
Lawyers who defend men are criticised, booed, spat at…
LAW FAILING FAMILIES?
Senior advocate Milind Gokhale says at least one harassed husband comes to him per week. He says, “The entire law in India is loaded in favour of women. But not many of us understand the real-life implications of this. Once a wife goes to court, two things are bound to happen: one, the incarceration of the man and his family; two, the unbearable humiliation that comes with it. Having dealt with thousands of these cases, I can tell you that these allegations ruin these men from within, rarely do they bounce back.” Even as a lawyer, defending harassed men is not easy, Gokhale admits. “We are criticised, booed and even spat at. Even judges tend to sympathise with the women,” he says.
COUNSELLING AND ACTIVISM
The NGO Save Indian Family, that launched its Hyderabad chapter in April 2014, uncovered several shocking cases of male harassment, including rape of teenage boys to old parents fighting against the mistreatment of their sons and widows who are fighting for justice having lost their sons to suicide. Men’s rights NGOs have registered that among the laws that are generally misused, the ones that top the list are not just IPC 498a(Dowry Law) but there’s also widespread misuse of rape laws, workplace harassment laws, custody laws, maintenance laws, divorce laws etc. While counsellors who work with men who are victims of harassment do not give any legal advice, they say that these victims need a lot of psychological counselling. Most men who are beaten up only muster up the courage to call the helplines but are too embarrassed to attend meetings. These meetings are not only attended by male victims, but also their sisters and mothers who come and share their stories.
I HEARD ABOUT IT FROM THE MEDIA
“It began with her condition that I must not speak to my parents and my siblings. She wanted to live separately and we moved out. For four months, I did not even speak to my family. She would spy on my phone too and constantly threaten me of divorce. She moved away on job and then followed the 498a case against me. She did not even inform me. I got to know of it through media. It was all over the newspapers, across five districts. My humiliated parents almost committed suicide. It feels like death when you read the allegations, you know. She accused me of torturing her for dowry `5 lakh. And although I was right by her side when she gave birth to our daughter, she alleged that I wasn’t with her because she was having a girl child. She also slapped domestic violence and maintenance cases against me. Today, being a working professional, I spend most of my time running around courts. — Shravan S
FROM A VICTIM TO COUNSELLOR
“I got married in 2000 and after three years, things started to turn bad. She moved in with her parents and started forcing me to move in with them, which I refused — leading to her filing a harassment case against me in 2004. This was followed by a few maintenance cases. The latest maintenance case was in 2008. I was finally acquitted in 2009. So, it was a good five years of trauma. In 2008, I decided to become a counsellor. I wanted to help other people instead of just crying about my case. And since then I have counselled more than 300 people per year. The problem is that men are vulnerable, but they fail to express themselves — again because of the stereotype that men don’t cry. Take for instance the battery cases, we have colleagues or relatives report to us but the men almost never show up at meetings, because it is embarrassing. Also, for men victims trauma is largely emotional as opposed to the women victims who are manhandled physically. Another marked difference is that there is no support system for men, as much as there is for women. You will hardly find any organisations for men. — Partha
Gender-neutral laws needed
Kumar Jahgirdar, a prominent activist in the cause for equal rights for men, hit the national headlines when he fought against his ex-wife Chethana Ramatheertha, now the wife of Anil Kumble, to get shared custody of the children and became a poster boy for men’s rights. Aware of the criticism that men’s rights campaigns often face, Jahgirdar sums up the whole campaign “Society needs to understand that we are not anti-women The campaign is for gender-neutral laws.”
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